How to Deal with Pain and Stay Positive

Is it possible to display a good, positive mood while being in pain? A bad attitude can easily hit anyone at any time, but when illness or pain is part of the equation, the self-control threshold certainly lessens.

How to Deal with Pain and Stay Positive

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When we don’t feel good, physically or mentally, it’s so easy to just shut out the world around us to deal with the pain. Physical hurt and the emotions conjured from illness or chronic pain tend to get internalized. From the perspective of a hurt person, we are dealing with the situation the best way we know how. But is it better to keep others from feeling our pain by holding it all inside? When we’re faced with managing relationships on top of dealing with pain, it can – and most certainly will- effect our attitude. 

The following will dive into some practical ways to answer the above question, keep a good attitude and manage relationships while dealing with hurt.

How to Deal with Pain and Stay Positive

Open Up

Everyone deals with some sort of pain at some point in their lives. It’s difficult to remember this when it’s us who’s in the midst of the struggle. Often we feel alone and depressed on top of handling the pain, which adds to the sting.

But remember, those around you have dealt with hurt – possibly more than you know. They likely  understand and are usually willing to help… if only you open up to them. Being vulnerable while hurting is not easy, so let’s first discuss one thing.

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How We Deal with Pain Matters

There are many ways people deal with hurt. Some bottle it up and don’t let a single soul know how they are feeling. Some let only a token few individuals inside. While others tell everyone they meet about what they’re going though. No way is wrong; how people deal with a crisis is as unique as the person God made them to be.

The key is to find someone who handles crisis situations like you do – and confide in them.

You will likely not find the kind of comfort, support or help you are longing for from another if they don’t match your style.

Find an Outlet

Everyone needs an outlet for the pain and hurt they are experiencing. If left inside without an out, these energies will end up buried within your psyche. They will not just go away; eventually these low energy feelings will be conjured and arise once again. Now, they may subside for a period of time – days, weeks or even years – but not without some negative consequences. 

Release Energy

Everything in this world is made up of energy. Remember back to school: Chemistry class taught us that matter is made of molecules – which is made up of protons, electrons and neutrons held together with bonds. The difference between the states of matter are the rate of how fast the molecules are moving. Even solid states are moving at a molecular level. 

My point in reliving high school classes is this: we are made from energy, display that energy and believe it or not, our thoughts and feelings can alter that energy.

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All feelings and emotions are also wavelengths of energy; the negative and hurtful ones are of a low wavelength.

If not released, low wavelengths of energy will lower your entire energy level as an individual.

If you’re attempting to hold on to the pain and not release it, know that holding these feelings inside are toxic to your entire being. They can even effect your ability to heal.


When we cry (for an emotional reason) our tears actually contain multiple stress hormones and other chemicals! Researchers believe that crying reduces stress by reducing the levels of these chemicals in the body. Such a powerful body we have!

How to Deal with Pain and Stay Positive

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Going a bit deeper, when we let ourselves cry, negative energy has a place to go and is released. Allow your body this opportunity to elevate it’s frequency by releasing. Think back to the last time you had a hard cry. How did you feel right after? Almost euphoric is how I would explain it; you feel better! Never hold in a chance to really cry, it is healing, which is something every single person needs on a regular basis.

Deep Breathing 

Take a slow, very deep breath in through your nose, allowing life-sustaining oxygen to fill the deepest part of you. Let it out just as slow out through your mouth, focusing on making the release steady. Do this for as long as you can, allowing your thoughts to focus on the breathing alone. Set an alarm on your phone to do this 3 times a day. The effects will astound you.

Deep and focused breathing stimulates the vagas nerve which is extremely important. It’s like exercise for your insides. In minutes a day, you can can calm your heart rate, improve communication between your gut-brain axis, improve gastrointestinal health, lower your blood pressure – and to bring it all together, change your energy wavelength and pattern. And study after study has proven that just minutes of breathing like this each day can result in reduced anxiety, depression, stress and emotional exhaustion. (2)

Alter Your Viewpoint

No matter our situations, we can choose to look at them with eyes that see hope, good and opportunity or with eyes that see hopelessness, negativity and fear. As I explained in The Attitude Antidote, we are constantly provided opportunities to learn and grow. Challenges in life will surface in different ways to provide opportunities to learn specific lessons. Our attitude really matters here.

Being negative will not help our cause in any way. For healing we need to let go of old patterns of seeing the bad to pave the way to see a better hope and future.

Just changing your mindset can alleviate pain, alter energy patterns and allow your body to be placed in a state that is more conducive to heal.

Reset Your Attitude 

Thoughts create feelings. So if you’re feeling negative, the body will feel poorly and it’s energy state will not be in one that is condusive to healing. While it is difficult to alter thought patterns, it is far from impossible. It only needs to be a daily focus. If you need help in this arena, you’ve come to the right place, as this is my life’s passion!

If you feel like your attitude can use a revamp, I can offer multiple ways to help.

  1. Check out the 21-day attitude fix.
  2. Read more about how to get rid of your attitude for good.
  3. Best yet, if you feel you are ready to allow God to help, The Attitude Antidote: A Whole Life Overhaul 21-Day Devotional would be the best resource for the ultimate lasting change.

The Attitude Antidote: A Whole Life Overhaul 21-Day Devotional

I want to wish you the best of luck in finding your best way to heal not only your physical pain, but your emotional pain as well. For our best self is found when we are grounded spiritually, mentally and physically. 

My soul honors your soul. I honor the place in you where the entire universe resides. 

I honor the light, love, truth, beauty and peace within you, because it is also within me. 

In sharing these things we are united, we are the same, we are one.


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